Changing alleys

CHANGE!! - the very six letter word means a lot.. a lot more than our imagination. Sometimes I wonder what would be the right definition of “Change”? How do I define change? Well, I guess change is something that affects you entirely or partially. Its either a change in your environment, a change of your job, changing acquaintances and friends, a change in the way you look at life and a change in the way you perceive yourself.

I believe, a change occurs in your life only when we look at ourselves in a different way. Its strange that a person gets affected by this very phenomenon when he expects it little. You do not change because you want to but because you are provoked to. You change because you do not fit into the previous circumstances any more. It is because you deserve more or deserve less that what you have had so far.

Interestingly, a change is something that accompanies a person from womb to tomb. You do change from a toddler to an aspiring adult… and then to a drooped, matured person who stands out to be a witness of the changing faces of the world. Some would refer this as a kind of unwanted disturbance that intrudes into the stability of individuals. But I would beg to differ. Change actually makes us a better human being than before. It saves us from being stagnant. And when one day, we are too stooped to bear this burden, its the time to depart. And even when we depart we make space for some other individual to fill in our chairs ..that I would say is “Change”.

Saga Of Middle Class woman

As soon as the clock strikes seven, I simply click the “shut down” button of mycomputer, get hold of my clutch bag, and start doing my hairs. After putting on a shade of the lip gloss I leave from office on my way to home so that I don’t get to miss my favorite Star Plus soaps.

Needless to mention, they are a must have of my life. Like most people, me and my family stay glued to the television and till the show lasts. I’ve observed the theme of these soaps for long. Interestingly, in most soaps, the protagonist happens to be a strong willed woman hailing from a middle class background. They fight against all odds and come out victorious in the end. A good number of people, men to be specific, term it as a typical melodramatic serial that really stirs the emotional chord of human beings. Be it Parvati from Kahaani Ghar Ghar ki, or Kasturi from the serial titled the same or Prerna Bajaj from Kasauti Zindagi Kay, singing the ballad of the middle class saga.

Perhaps, on the surface it appears like a typical soap trying to encash on middle class sentiments, but the turbulance of a girl on her way to become a social figure is something we all can relate to. Perhaps each one of us has gone through this particular phase of life when you are eager to put a mark of your identity in this world. It is a time when your lofty principals taught in literature books are being put to test. And when your principals and ideas are not really backed by Sugar Daddy, the life is tough. Being a middle class woman is never easy. I myself hail from a middle class background and I know what it takes to prove your worth against all dominating forces. Whereas your parents appreciate you to have be a soft demeanor, the same wouldn’t fit into the corporate dealings. Its really a great struggle to pick up diplomacy by pushing aside your innocent teenage. When it comes to spending a romantic evening with your boyfriend or husband, you need to let go of your corporate image and be his perfect nice wife. In most cases, you have to respect his ego and succumb to his wishes. Though it doesn’t hold true with everyone, but in most cases, it is him who take the upper hand.

Interestingly in most Saas-bahu soaps, the turmoil begins when a middle class Cinderella gets married to a rich prince. She has to get over the daunting remarks from in-laws and protect her husband’s love for her. Sometimes she is required to forgo her job either to please her husband or for the sake of devoting time for children. It is like sacrificing the independence for the sake of love. This is actually the saga of a middle class woman ..where you sacrifice yourself for holding close your possessions…until one fine morning, you wake up to find yourself caged inside the wooden frames of the window..and as you look further, you realize that the end of the rainbow is quite far from the next block of building.

Dreams, Deeds, Destiny

A question has engulfed me for the past few days. I’m in search for the right answer for it. As a human being, I’ve always believed that it is us, we human beings design our own fate and our future. Our future is the simple product of our present plans and ideas and it gets manifested on the basis of our deeds. The more lofty our dreams are, the harder it is to achieve it. And needless to mention, each man is judged by the parameter of his dream and his struggles to achieve the same.

But despite of everything I mention above, we have to admit the role of destiny in our lives. According to many philosophers, everything in our lives is predestined. This is simply a tangle between two opinions. I personally do not contradict any of these. It is something like when we desire for something, it becomes a part of our everyday thought process and when we work for achieving it from our heart, it comes true. But this holds true for a limited incidents. If we ever desire something that is not destined to happen, all our efforts go futile. And instances are not rare when we get frustrated at not having achieved something. But when we look back at by gone days, we realize that whatever had happened in past had been for our good. This however does not explain the inter-relationship between the three variables viz. dream, deeds and destiny.

Paolo Cuelho mention in his renowned book “The Alchemist”-
“When you want something, the whole Universe conspires to help you realize your desire”. The author drops a hint on this subject. But whether we believe in our own dreams and desire or rely more on destiny simple depends on individual outlook and attitude. I feel that human beings believe something when they want to believe it- and this perhaps molds our destiny to certain extent.. in words of the author.

Gone With The Wind…

While writing a blog post, sometimes Ifeel a little funny. It remind me of the time when we’re kids. We eagerly wanted to scribble anything and everything on the walls of our living room only to accentuate deep frowns on mom’s face. Well relax! This is not another post analyzing blogging basics.Today, I’ll discuss something far more interesting. From my teenage days, I’ve been an avid reader. And I love reading lots of books, classics, thriller

s, novels, you name it. I remember that once I borrowed “Gone With the Wind” from library and started leafing through its pages. But eventually the boredom of reading1000 pages got better of my interest and finally I gave up. I was barely sixteen that time and it has been seven years since then. A few days back, I had had the chance to get a glimpse of the book once again. And as I finished reading, I concluded that the book doesn’t narrate a story… it sketches life.

The life of the protagonist Scarlett o’Hara has been nicely portrayed in the backdrop of American Civil war. It vividly describes the impact of war in lives of common American and at the same time tries to explore delicate facets of human relations. Every incident in a person’s life leaves behind an impression in the person’s character and it becomes more evident as we get to know of the life of Scarlett. The adamant girl from Georgia gradually morphs into a responsible woman taking care of the lives of her dependents. Being unable to forget her childhood sweetheart Ashley, she is less attentive towards her husband and eventually looses him. And at the end of the story, e find Scarlett realize that she never loved Ashley at all. It was Rhett( her husband) who had been the man of her life. … Mitchell Margaret leaves the rest part of her life untold and the story ends where we find Scarlet traveling back to Tara waiting Rhett to come back someday….sometime.

In my opinion, the novelist actually hits the right chord of human sentiments where she leaves Ashley deserted, craving for the love that she once had. In practical parlance too, human are seldom aware of their own emotions. Often they love someone and feel it is for someone else. We don’t know whether Scarlett ever got the chance of meeting Rhett once again… and even if she did.. was it like ever before. People realize the worth of something when it goes out of reach..that’s basically human nature, and their lives are like feathers..just gone with the wind.

Hello all

Hello all,

This is my first blog in WordPress. I had heard from my peers the WordPress is a great platform to have a blog provided you are not keen to place ads. Though for me, ads have always been lucrative, I prefer to refrain from them when it comes to personal blogs. “Flakes Of Thoughts”, which is all about penning down my wierdest thoughts and fantasies, would definitely be a great fit in WordPress. Something thatI really admire about WordPress is its interface. Though they don’t really provide that option to experiment with it much unless you are a CSS pro, I like it my way.

While blogging, the first question that comes to my mind is “Why?”, “why blog at all?” Well, I still remember the days when my school teacher used to give a nice pep talk about maintaining a personal dairy. She tried her level best to make us cultivate this habit. And all the students, specially me turned a deaf ear to her words. There were two hard reasons for that.

Firstly, at that age, we didn’t really have anything to talk about. We were yet to have any personal opinion on any subject. Secondly, there was really no one to listen to my daily titbits.However, both of these factors no longer exist. In the span of 23 years, I’ve more than enough matters to express my opinion about. And, the web has offered more than enough listeners to my words. Thanks to the contributions of technology :)Guess I’ve already said much for today. Do check back for more of my blurbs in coming days. Till ten…